For those with mental illness the problem is compounded by fear of disclosure and stigma.As every member of has a mental illness, it is hoped that removing these barriers will improve the social lives of its members. They featured me as one of the most ill-advised dating sites on the web. But the ironic thing is that it gave me a lot of traffic. When the mood disorder came around it was this crushing realization that, “Oh my god. Do people tend to align themselves with others who have similar illnesses? I wasn’t making any new friends that were not mentally ill at the time. Feeling worthy of love is something I really struggle with. I don’t like who I am when I get anxiety attacks, so why would I think that someone else would love that? When I turn inward, I don’t want to pollute people with what’s going on. There’s this part of me that thinks that life is supposed to be enjoyed, it’s this wonderful gift and everything, and yet I’m completely depressed so it’s like I’m a bad person for feeling that way. There’s stigma involved and everything, but once you put the word “schiz-“ in front of something, there’s a lack of education. I still had psychotic features for several years after that, still thinking that all the stuff was true and everybody were idiots and they just didn’t believe me. On No Longer Lonely, do people have to say on their profile what mental illness they have? ” And often enough I usually err on the side of, if they’re struggling with something and they think they can benefit from this and maybe they can connect to these people, you know, I’m fine with that.It’s been ten years since James Leftwich first created No Longer Lonely, a dating website exclusively for people with mental illnesses. No Longer Lonely has chat rooms, forums, and places for people to post their art. I did model it after the major dating sites, but I added certain categories too, like housing options for Section 8 or ‘I live with my parents’ or ‘I live in a halfway house.’ I thought it was important to have a category for ‘Do you own your own transportation? I’ve had very few people that come on there as a joke or prey on the users, at least that I know of. Do you mind saying what you’ve been diagnosed with? After I was hospitalized, I went to a halfway kind of house. It’s kind of like in prison, where the child molesters are this and the rapists are that and the murderers are that. I don’t want to hang out with him.” That was the main thing of the site, to defeat the stigmas. Connect with people that are experiencing the same thing as you.’ I think that’s equally as important as all those other things.Leftwich spoke with me about the challenges of running the site and about why he believes forming loving relationships should be recommended more frequently than pills. It was one of those things where I looked for something and it didn’t exist. ’ because that can be a big deal among people that are mentally ill. I was diagnosed with what’s called it falls under a schizophrenia spectrum disorder…you’re blessed with both a psychotic disorder and a depressive disorder so it’s one of the more chronic diagnoses. That’s my only hospitalization, but I was there for about two months. By going on the site, you don’t have to worry about disclosing it to anybody. What are your feelings on treating mental illnesses? She didn’t know much about mental illness, but she accepted me.
A couple of unhappy years with someone back home who loved me when I did not love him.No Longer Lonely is the ultimate icebreaker: • Never have to worry again about disclosure of your condition • No need to hide those pill bottles • Never again have to explain your erratic work experience • No more stigma-induced disappointments • Finding someone who can really understand your struggles and accomplishments Please spread the word about this site as its effectiveness relies on its popularity. Boy were they expensive and when I did get a date (didn't happen a lot) things got complicated when it came to disclosing my illness.No Longer Lonely is actively seeking people to help feed word of mouth and advertise the website to the mentally ill community. It always stressed me out and usually the other person would be scared away. The site is an active community that is encouraged to report suspicious behavior and the webmaster takes immediate action upon recommendations from its users. I'm 36, single, live in Brooklyn, and work in publishing.I love gloomy Victorian novels, obscure Korean horror films, Premier League soccer, and knitting.