Dating as a polyamorous woman brings with it a lifetime's worth of misconceptions and jealousies.Add a few extra layers of fat to that experience, and things can get depressing real fast.Societal standards of beauty are not only arbitrary but often literally impossible to achieve without Photoshop and make-up and there are assholes out there who feel empowered to mock fat people with impunity.But being large and in charge doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to a life of being forever alone; in fact, you may find that you have far more options for finding love, sex and happiness than you’d ever believe possible. There are plenty of notable examples out there if you look around. Seth Rogan is no Abercrombie and Fitch model but he’s also happily married.But my sister didn’t share this video on her Facebook page to garner laughs from her friends and family.It was quite the opposite, actually: my sister was angry at the round’s subject and the subsequent answers given.
I know people are all "looks don't matter," but they totally do. "I'm just trying to help." Listen, I'm going to share a harsh truth with you here: People know they're fat. "You're just big-boned, man." The bones in my butt and stomach are particularly large, yes.As a non-single, fat, polyamorous woman, I can't tell you how often I've been questioned about my confidence, self-worth, who I am, and why I'm into what I'm into.If literally the only reason you are interested in me is because I'm fat, you might want to take a step back and get to know a bit about me first. When you tell me I'm not, what you are really saying is that despite my body size, I'm not all those horrible things you tend to associate with fatness.If a classically attractive person of any gender is with a fat man, the general assumption is that this fat man has to have money, or some sort of power otherwise.Why else would someone who could presumably get with anyone they wanted choose to be with a disgusting fat man, right?