None of these guys started screaming at me, they THANKED me and said they would get tested – none of them had it -YAY!!!! And while I’m not an expert in herpes, per se, I do know a number of people who have it, and continue to lead rich, happy, limitless dating lives. Because one second you’re saying “No way” to a guy with herpes, and the next, you’re praying that a guy doesn’t judge you for this one minor thing. According to Herpes.com, 50-80 percent of the American adult population has oral herpes. The scariest part of this whole thing is the staggering ignorance about herpes – a disease that undoubtedly affects someone that you know. Well, let’s just say that I have close friends, clients, and ex-girlfriends who have genital herpes, and none of them are traumatized, hospitalized or ostracized because of it. Just know that if you have the disease, you may be entirely asymptomatic, which would mean that you could potentially transmit it without knowing.
And if you do have symptoms, they are easily controlled with the use of drugs.
It's a big decision dating someone with herpes so here's some suggestions to make sure you're doing the right thing.
Your partner has shown a lot of courage to tell you that they have herpes.
I have gone through "the conversation" a million times in my mind.
After going through the normal flip out and that my dating life would now consist of Ben and Jerry’s and DVD’s every Saturday night, I’m ready to get out there again.
Genital herpes is a common sexually transmitted infection.
According to data collected through the Canadian Health Measures Survey, as many as one in seven Canadians aged 14 to 59 may be infected by herpes simplex virus 2, one of two viruses responsible for the infection.
Mc Kay said the percentage of the population with herpes is “huge,” but most people don’t know they carry the virus.
It takes a lot of courage for your partner to admit they have herpes to you. Then go home and think about herpes and your relationship for a couple of days. Now, you'll have to decide whether to stay with and continue dating someone with herpes.
This shows a lot about a person to admit to you they have herpes. If you love this person, the decision should be easier.
I have seen men post on various dating sites where they come right out on their profile stating they have herpes.
And before I found out about my little gem, I would immediately think, "not in my backyard". I thought that if I meet someone, and there seems to be some sort of vibe, I would have the talk pretty quickly, possibly even the first date.